As we are moving through this time of staying close to home, we may still be feeling the shock waves of energy from the world around us. Even though we are in some form of isolation we are still energetically connected. With more down time we are able to easily reflect on our lives and relationships and may be experiencing issues and things coming up. They may come through the body if we are only ever willing to slow down when that is the case. It can be helpful to notice what your pattern of response is with that scenario, and how you respond. Responding without judgement or resistance is important for growth and for learning what this wisdom offers you.
People pleasing is bound to be in the mix at some point and more so for some than others. We may not feel good about socializing on zoom, for example, or taking part in some other aspect and feel it difficult to say no to a friend. There may be a feeling of guilt associated or some other emotion that we would prefer to avoid. But it’s part of the package of learning how to practice self care and it will get easier with practice.
If we are experiencing a difficult relationship over a long period of time, and continually trying to love and light our way through it, perhaps check and see if we are negotiating with ourselves to stay there, to keep it afloat by way of our changing and adapting. If so, it isn’t a sustainable relationship and we may need an honest look at it. And by really being honest we free ourselves up to align with our own core truth. And if we say no to someone wanting us to say yes, think of how out of touch that person is to us energetically. Perhaps the person isn’t very much of an empath, an unconscious extrovert; when we give them the gift of saying no, it frees both people up to get what they each really need, where there will be an alignment genuinely.
In any moment, to ask what is truly the most loving thing to do can be a key to the overall very best to give yourself and the other. Always, that will be self care for us. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do WILL be uncomfortable for the other person and demonstrate perhaps a new possibility they wouldn’t have chosen.
Recognizing the pattern of feeling exhausted when those we are caring for are fine, might be an indicator of some needed empowerment. Maybe we are assuming too big portion of responsibility in the relationship and its time to look at how to hand off and empower others to more self care, or learning to care for their siblings or whatever the situation may be.
Inspirations that are drawing your attention, anything a bit ambitious or that there is no prior reference for, is commonly responded to with an inner critic or fear voice that speaks up to “protect” us because the growth is coming. Ask “what are you protecting me from”. The fact that the voice is coming up is an indication that learning and growing is just ahead.