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Stepping out of the Norm

Stepping out of our routine, our daily lives and into a space and place that is not familiar can be, well, many things. It can be new and exciting. Things can go not according to plan and be challenging. But there is an invitation at least, to step out and trust that things will work out, and see what happens. To follow where you are being drawn to. I just returned from a road trip with my granddaughter and husband to Arizona late last night after two days there, plus a full day of driving each way. 


Leaving the care of my cat, dove, and countless wild birds to someone else was a conscious choice, but required me to surrender control and “be” with all the feelings that were brought up. Feelings of gratitude for the freedom for me and also the care for these loving and dependent beings. Feelings of adventure but also the letting go of my role, my place in the world I have created. The awareness that I can be replaced and the world will go on without me. Life finds a way…


Handing over the wheel of my car to my 17 year old driver’s permitted granddaughter, was another kind of surrender. Letting go of the identity I place on her as “little” or someone I need to do things for, like driving; and replace that projection with one that is current, upgraded, and expanded. To invite and actually sanction her growth and readiness for more adult responsibility. To convey my confidence and trust in her judgement and ability, is a crucial stage for both of us, for all of us really!


And initially, that surrender felt like I was getting smaller,… But in reflection now, I actually feel more expansive. I feel more comfort and space around what is possible. Things that have had a certain routine, might happen differently. Timing could be more flexible, without it being an issue. Who knows how many new and undiscovered possibilities there are for things to happen! Who knows how different our own identities could be??? What kind of anonymity is available if we just open up enough to make space for it?


While away, at different times, I would imagine myself as someone else, anyone else. In Arizona the demographics are different than in Monterey, for sure. Most people didn’t wear masks, there were Trump 2020 flags in store fronts, restaurants offered inside dining and were packed. There were ATV’s and RV’s everywhere and vehicles pulled just off the highway in random places. As if there were “no rules” so to speak. The landscape was extremely different, more arid and desert terrain. My sense of “how things are” was challenged, causing me to check in with myself and see was I just following along or how personally informed and committed was I to the routines and practices I invested in?


Coming home, I wondered how I might hold onto some of that anonymity? After all, I COULD be anyone I chose to be! Right? Clearly, our days and lives are made up of strings of choices we make. Perhaps we go through a bit of a rut out of sheer momentum, but the option is there. And now, there is so much “wind at out back” supporting new, innovative, and expansive energy in our world. The thought of that makes me want to “set my sail” in a direction I’ve been wanting to travel! To step out. Out of the shadows, the routines, the “norm” whatever that has been. How about you? Are you feeling this? Does this resonate at all?


I appreciate the opportunity to step out of my norm in all of the many shades of color and texture I found. It has left me feeling empowered in a new way. All of the ways I have shared plus just the act of going out on this buying trip for gems and crystals; to go direct to the source! And to find treasures I wouldn’t have otherwise.

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You Are Always Free

Here is a quote from an ancient wisdom that feels potent to me:

“The weight you feel has been chosen by you, nobody has placed it on you. The weight we each carry is the chosen responsibility. The load we drag is the weight of our choice. You owe nothing to anyone, no one depends on you. You’re free. That person who feels weight for their family is actually free. He who feels responsibility for his work is free. That person who blames herself for the mistakes made, is free. Those who live by karma are free. Whoever sees themselves fulfilling a mission is free. Who takes care of a child feeling that it is the most important thing, is free … Do you understand? You are always free. The only thing that weighs on you is your choice about things. You do what you can not because it is within your power, but because you “can.” You are free to decide not to do it, as you were free when you chose to do it. But the weight does not fall on you, because all that exists is a memory, a network, and by sharing what you know, you distribute this weight, you distribute the pressure. You are no longer alone, neither here nor there, you are remembering …”

We are remembering, more and more, our Selves, our uniqueness, our power, our choice, our part of the whole; the unity. Remembering can feel like waking from a dream, enjoyable or not. It can feel unfamiliar – an altered reality, even distorted from the “norm”.

As we move into this Aquarian innovative energy, with Uranus’ fast and free energy squaring Saturn’s slow and structured energy; we can expect our attention to gravitate toward a new way, cleaning out the old, questioning the rules and being open to our higher truth. All of this revolves within the sphere of our pure and simple freedom.

Within the reality of this freedom, we are choosing to see or not to see, hear or not to hear, feel or not to feel. It is a powerful time, to move on from any patterns of powerlessness, passivity, or patterns of fear within ourselves. Let’s embody our true nature as clear and present creative beings, exercising our connection to unity consciousness – collaborating, sharing openly with one another, without attachment. From the connection to our own hearts, following the flow and direction it dictates for us. We are free to choose the “blue pill” or the red pill” as in the movie Matrix. It is time to own that choice for ourselves and not wait for another person to direct us, measure us, or to approve of us.

We are all in this together and there are no passengers.

Let’s recognize this in our circle of friends, family or colleagues and encourage it. The differences we present can be the harmony we create together, the healing we seek for the planet and all life. Please, speak your truth, sing it, chant it, whisper it. All levels of vibration are creative. Choose wisely!


As many of you are, I have been finding my balance with the new way of things in our world, but mostly within myself. I deeply value your influence in my life, the inspiration, contrasts and reflections are precious to me.

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Paradox or Out of the Box

I am struck with the paradox that I feel in recent days:
I feel more growth personally but less external connections or expansion.
I feel love more deeply but also more clarity about those things I don’t care for.
I feel more clarity about what is valuable to me and less certain about what is to come.

Jung felt paradox could be a “better witness to truth than a one-sided, so-called ‘positive’ statement.” As such, in its ability to embrace contradiction and both sides of an issue, paradox “… is the natural medium for expressing trans-conscious facts,” and thus is “… one of our most valued spiritual possessions. Quantum physics, for example, is full of paradoxes: What is the nature of light? Is it a wave or a particle? Both. In the same way, we live in a reality that is both determined and indeterminate.

Could it be that our perception of these paradoxes are a reflection of our own expansion? And if that’s a good thing, why does it feel so uncomfortable sometimes? How can we align with opposing directions?

Here’s an example from Celeste:
“I have a situation at home with a loved one that is angry, a lot of the time. This anger makes it uncomfortable for them and everyone around them. They are not open to help or growth. They are over 21 and have every right to make their own choices but not to dictate to others in the house. I feel like I am living with an angry bully, almost everyday. Living in an environment where “sharing” the kitchen for example, is more like a battleground requiring wit, wisdom and cunning. How can I feel this way about a family member? Maybe I’m not giving enough understanding and compassion?

I have wrestled with this dynamic for many years now; have had therapy, readings, read many great books on the topic of healthy boundaries and loving relationships. I am by no means an expert on the topic! But I have much life experience including what does and doesn’t work. At some point we can’t read “the answer” or be told by another what the answer is for us. Thanks to covid, we have both the opportunity to deep dive within the self and the requirement to do so. There’s not as much avoiding it, possible. Spiritual teachers might call this an “accelerated growth” opportunity.

So I am aware that the dynamic with this person has the pattern of an angry bully, so they are not going to be open to reason. They do not want to cooperate, which is abundantly clear. It also makes sense that it would be a relief for them to be directing their anger outside themselves (at me) rather than deal with the personal issues connected to the source of their anger. All of which is important for me to know. therefore, I cannot appeal to that balanced, mature, reasonable and harmonious part of them at the moment. There are times in a human life when you can’t assume or expect someone to be available to be balanced and reasonable.” Very important to access your audience.

“I also have to take responsibility for my grief about this, and my tendency to ignore those facts and pretend they are “okay”, out of my exhaustion or denial. We are more comfortable recognizing that a child for example, needs a nap and not taking their behavior at face value. Of course with a child, I could put them down for a nap! In the case of someone over 21, not so much. Nevertheless, a similar reality in that I cannot take things at face value, I need to use my senses to access the situation, and most importantly, I need to fill my tank so I am not exhausted!!!”

Celeste has awareness of her situation and her responsibilities. She is also aware of some construction responses and options available to her. Can you relate to Celeste?

Consider; an athlete prepares for a competitive event; with rest, food, affirmations, etc. We have the same needs perhaps? How would it be to approach our lives with a similar importance as an athlete approaches a game? Hmmm.

We can’t know what this new year of 2021 will bring. But it is perhaps more clear to identify what not to expect. I don’t expect things to return to “normal” this year. I don’t expect business to stabilize or thrive. I don’t expect I will go anywhere without my mask, that I or others will feel settled this year. If anything, as a “transition” year, it will be unsteady, bumpy, and many new things may be in store that are not yet comfortable. Do I think there will be progress to a “better tomorrow”? YES. And this new Aquarian Age is just,… beginning. Not to be confused with it being in full swing.

We hear people talking about building resiliency, although that is clearly still in the mix, I want to talk about really being clear, honest, and stabilized for what is next. It puts a whole new spin on self care for me. The prospect of challenges that we can see coming, in our home and family. It puts a new filter on our perceptions around things like exercise, rest, etc.

I know Celeste is not alone in the experience of complicated circumstances and challenges. If you are at all gaining anything from this sharing, please know that I and others, might also gain from yours. Our stories might not match or even be very similar; but that is a good thing. Together we cover more surface area and can make connections that create a network of support.

Take stock in your own life and inventory what is ahead for you. Not from an intellectual place of logistics and problem solving so much as from that deeply feminine place of knowing and intuition. Give a voice to the wild unconscious that lives deep within and has been with you for many lifetimes.

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No Time to Sweat the Little Things

We are entering a very powerful time, with the Solstice on the 21st of December, and the planetary alignments that continue to support new energies. Earth and Jupiter will both be within 1 degree of Aquarius, signifying the end of one cycle and the beginning of a new one, (aside from marking the end of a solar year). Jupiter and Saturn will be within 1 degree of each other, also in Aquarius. Since Aquarius is the sign of freedom, Saturn in Aquarius will give us the determination to break through existing structures to find new, more sustainable ways to live. (That’s the extent of my knowledge but if you are at all interested, there is a lot more to know and you can find oodles of info online.)

There is no doubt, this has been a year like no other and this holiday season will be no exception to that. So many people are missing their family visits, traditions, and freedoms this season. There will be distinctions to reflect on, aspects of one’s own identity will possibly become clear in new ways, and creativity around new ways of celebrating and connecting will move into place. How is your sense of self shifting, or is it?

It’s especially important now, to utilize any opportunity you can, to stay connected to your inner world and your higher self, God, spirit guides, or whatever you know as Sacred. Fan the flames of your own inner light. At this time of darkness, we must be our own light. By doing so, we will add to the higher vibrations of all those around us and our Mother Earth as well.

Relationships may have issues surface in new ways to be addressed, there could be misunderstandings or old grievances among friends and family or in work settings. Maybe consider it the notification of needed “updates” to your operating systems. And respond to situations of any tension, with a curious mind and open heart, which will allow for a deeper understanding and alleviate any power struggles. Is this coming up for you?

I have recently fallen in love with my bed. My pillow is so soft and supportive and feels so good! And my covers are soft and warm… And I have paid special attention to the things I just LOVE. I feel lighthearted when I notice and appreciate their gifts to me and on some days doing the best I can might mean I really appreciate my pillow! When I am operating with a pretty full tank of self care, I can handle more strain without taking a downward spiral. But if I notice I’m feeling heavy and tight, I know I need to experience or even just reflect on something I really love and appreciate. I don’t know about you, but I am not sweating the same “little things” that I used to. I guess there are just too many to pay that much attention to anymore. How about you?

This aspect of new beginnings and the continuation of change that is effecting us in growing practical ways, will be supported by our increasing flexibility. My newest mantra has become “Maybe, I don’t know, I’m not sure” and I am really okay with that. I throw in a bit of interested curiosity with it too whenever I can.

Although it’s traditional to look toward the coming new year as an end to the current year’s difficulties, it doesn’t appear to be the case this time. All of the new beginnings to better innovations coming in, will take time to establish themselves. It may feel worse before it feels better in the outside world. But it’s all part of where we are in the process of this evolutionary change.

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Stop Giving Your Energy to People Who Don’t Value It

I came across something someone shared online that I also thought to share with you. It was attributed to Anthony Hopkins although it was not verified. Regardless of who said it, there may be folks out there who may really benefit from this message. Perhaps it will speak to you in much the same way it did to me.

~~~ This may be the hardest thing you will have to do in your life. But, it may also be the most important thing. Stop giving your energy to those who don’t value it. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want to change. Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence. I know your impulse is to do everything to win the good mercy of everyone around you, but it’s also the impulse that will steal your time, your energy, your mental, physical, and spiritual health.

When you start expressing yourself in life more completely, with joy, interest, and commitment; not everyone will be ready to meet you in this place of sincerity. That doesn’t mean you have to change who you are. That means you have to stop giving your energy to people who don’t value it. When you are excluded, forgotten, or easily ignored by people who you give your time to,you don’t do yourself any favor by allowing them your energy and your time.

The truth is, you’re not for everyone and everyone is not for you. That makes this world more special when you do find the people who you share true friendship and love with. You will know how valuable it is because you will have experienced what it isn’t. But the more time that you spend trying to be loved by someone who is incapable or unwilling, the more time you waste depriving the same connection you could have with someone who is. And the smaller you remain involved in the company of people who use you as a pillow, as a background option, who take but never give, the longer you withhold yourself from the company of those you desire.

If you stop showing up, you might be less wanted. If you stop trying, the relationship might stop. If you stop texting your phone may stay dark for days or weeks. Maybe if you stop giving so much energy to someone the relationship between you will dissolve. That doesn’t mean that you ruined the relationship. What that means is that all the relationship had going was the energy that you alone contributed to keep it afloat. That’s not love; that’s attachment. That’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t want it.

The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life, is your energy. It’s not just your time that is limited, but your energy. What you give your energy to everyday, is what will define your existence. When you realize this, you start to understand why you’re so impatient when you spend your time with people who don’t suit you, in activities, places, and situations that don’t suit you. You are starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, is to conserve your energy for those who would appreciate it.

Turn your life into a sanctuary where only those who are appreciative can gain entrance into that sacred space. You are not responsible for saving anyone. And it is not your responsibility to convince them to be saved. It’s not your job to exist for people, and to give them your life – little by little, moment after moment, because you feel pity, or obligation, or because you feel guilty.

Your only obligation is to realize that YOU are the one you have been seeking. And to BE the love you never received. Begin with this and watch as everything begins to change. ~~~ As we move into December’s bright, sharp and clear energy; things will move quickly. I know they have for me. There is a surge of creativity and activations for a cleanse of identity and building bridges from the old way to the new way. It may feel “topsy-turvy” and might require regular doses of forgiveness for ourselves and others. There is also an incoming of love and calm in the mix.

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Out of the Darkness

This message come to you with my highest thoughts and prayers for your wellness and peace.

How are you navigating conscious and unconscious feelings reverberating on the planet right now? I am looking forward to connecting with each of you and hearing from you how you are learning, growing and what medicines you are using in this extreme time of change.
I want to share some of the information I have found supportive, maybe something here will be useful for you too.

From Lee Harris, Nov. Energy Update: This time of change can be very disorienting. The benefit of that design, is to help us open up to new ways of looking at things and choosing more consciously for ourselves what works. The next 3 to 5 years will be massive change for us. It will be a time of much “truth-telling” about things that have been hidden and are now rising to the surface; to be better accessed and healed. Trying to keep things from changing will not go well. Instead, find your people and places; your lighthouses. Check to see that you have what you need and be sure to check in with yourself on that regularly.
*** FIND YOUR NEW NORMAL! ***

Let yourself be where you are. Feelings are a vertical line to the Universe so when we are in our feelings rather than trying to get rid of them, we will allow ourselves to transmute them. 

Oddly enough, the most recent ThetaHealing session with Alexis Davis was also talking about feelings. “How to ask for what you want without anger.” We explored some of the reasons we sometimes don’t speak up truthfully about what we want, and the list of reasons hit home. They range from “I don’t want to upset them”, “It won’t do any good anyway”, to feelings of unworthiness and more. I loved the reference Alexis gave for the goal in asking for what we want when she said “It should sound and feel like when you tell someone ‘Hey, your shoe is untied.'” This Friday (11/20) we will talk more about the practical things we can do to address this issue effectively. If you have curiosity and want to know more about her and what she offers, her website is www.corevisions.net, or contact me.
In closing, I will share this blessing:

“Out of the darkness, “A ala a”, arise out of the darkness into the light. The dawning of a new day is upon you and with it brings a new beginning. A day, that is fresh and unused, a clean palate to paint upon your fondest dreams and your deepest prayers. May the light within you shine forever bright, and may you come out of the darkness of fear to the love of God within you. That IS your light. Blessing and peace upon all humanity, in this holy instant.” – Kahuna Kali’ilahi (A direct descendant of Lemuria who transitioned to the spirit world in October 2020.)

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Seeds of Hope

It feels so “right” to lean-in to our connections; trusted and true during these days. So many of us are waiting for the political situations to settle, desperate for things to calm down. We have a need for order and safety. It is normal to reference the past as a “known” perhaps even predictable, to determine if we are safe or not. And now, we are in a position that requires us to establish for ourselves, in our day-to-day lives; our own order and safety.
Amidst the uncertainty, I turn to Nature. As I watch the songbirds feeding outside my window and hear their sweet sounds; I am called back to the domestic routines of my day. I, like them, need to think of food for the day, for myself and my family. As the heartbeat that continues throughout whatever uncertainty there might be; we are grounded in the business of life. Breathing in – breathing out. What a beautiful and simple way for us to anchor in the living world.

I recently listened to an interview with Cheryl Dembe, an extraordinary woman of our time. She received her PhD in Chemistry, with her study of fluidity and has since correlated chemistry and spirituality in her book The Choice of Happiness where she describes her account of being denied her PhD for twenty years for being a woman; and then received it with the help of a man who won a Nobel prize for the very same work she had successfully accomplished 20 years earlier. Here is a poem from her website that seems fitting.

“Seeds of hope feed off the light of the hopeful and bloom, scattering your heady scent of the Divine Mother up into the skies that it open the closed hearted and open the closed mind. Let the light of the All Mother shine through your brilliant beauty, your soft kindness and your tender love that the world might be renewed in purity through joy.
For this is the will of the Divine. Let it then be so.”

I invite you to share a poem or inspirational story with those who you gather in trust and align with. Together we can make a “soup” – a powerful elixir for the times!

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Time to Build Resiliency, October 3, 2020

It feels like such a long time since we have sat together with friends. I miss seeing friends in the physical, and sharing heartfelt laughter or tears of deep feeling. There have been so many changes in our world, communities, and families. I send my love and prayers with this message, for your health and happiness.

It’s time to build on our resiliency. To develop on our existing skills gained by experience, and expand their reach to cover more ground. The times we live in, will continue to bring changes and although I believe we are in the Great Turning, I also believe it will test us to our core. At this Equinox, the seasonal Harvest part of the year, we are reminded to look ahead to the coming darkness and the wisdom in preparing for the needs it will bring.

What contributes to your resiliency?   For me, there are the basics; good rest, enough food and water. But up near the top of the list is whether my “tank” is full or closer to empty. It has to do with how alive I feel in my life, my sense of alignment with my goals and values. My relationship with trusted friends and heartfelt, authentic exchanges. And my ability to receive love.

How do you contribute to the resiliency of others?   For many of us, we don’t fully recognize or value our talents. It’s important to me that I mirror for others what I recognize as their strong suit or talents and accomplishments. It also means that I respect their abilities, and not do for others what they can do for themselves that I can then acknowledge and appreciate.

What might take your current resiliency to the next level?   I recognize the need to take responsibility for some physical ailments I have tolerated for a decade or more, thinking I was too busy and it wasn’t that important. I realize that may be true for an ideal scenario but not for tough times. I am also aware of the benefit of being practiced at rooting, running energy, and adapting to the flow in the moment, while holding a clear intention for healing and renewal. Independence is part of that goal. After all, the goal is not to survive, but to thrive!

This line of thought might be unfamiliar. We haven’t seen the challenges our parents and ancestors have faced. It may be unwelcome or trigger unrest. It will not help us to turn away from challenging situations, but to look ahead with an open mind and heart with curiosity to guide us. Let’s travel this path together and learn from each other.

Please, if this speaks to you take a few moments to consider these questions and jot down some thoughts. Perhaps you have examples to include as well.

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A New Phase of Life, September 19, 2020

As I listen to the Junco’s jubilant and steady chatter outside the window, I am connected to the bigger space I am a part of. My heart traces the ribbons of love connections to sweet friends, longings, and there is ache too; all genuinely part of me this moment. The sun is up in the blue sky. The smoke has subsided finally and breathing is easier from the massive wild fire. I am so grateful.

Such abundant times. So much Life in all it’s array of experiences, feelings, and challenges. So many choices now made more personal or independent as we each find ourselves with more time and space or focus of intensity. Things stir and bubble until they find their new, better fitting place within us.

This is our new beginning. A new phase of life. We are not alone, we are part of a long and intricate weaving of lifetimes before us and after, that manifest beauty and love, courage and determination, channels of light. May we remember who we are and where we come from. May we recognize our being is part of a greater whole that we are gifted the opportunity to take part in.

As we tap in to the deeper currents of ourselves, I invite you to ponder for a moment one or all of these questions; and perhaps whatever comes up will be available to share with one another.

Who are your teachers?
Who do you invite as your personal guide or support?
How do you hold your connection to the bigger picture of Life?
What encouragement or advice would you offer your younger Self if you could?

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The Great Pause, September 5, 2020

Feeling in-between, with the fire, covid, the economy and the election? So much is in the balance with each of these very weighty issues. No wonder so many of us are feeling the influence of uncertainty.

What to do, while we are waiting for things to settle…
How to use this opportunity for it’s fullest benefits…  
How to prepare ourselves for the abundance and redesign of the future…

All of Nature is in constant change and when for example the weather changes, it affects many things. As of not even two weeks ago, we saw how it can trigger wildfires and countless other changes as a result. I’m feeling called to not only reconcile this for myself but frankly, align with it, lean into it the way you might on a roller coaster ride as you start heading up and over that high point; raising your arms and feeling your stomach register the uncertainty and excitement.

If any part of this resonates with you, reflect on the three questions above for yourself. Perhaps jot a few thoughts down or incorporate it into your current journaling practice. Invite insight to come to you in your dream-time before sleep. Notice the messages you receive from your animal totems or guides. And if it doesn’t, reflect on whatever is lighting up for you.

The veils are thinner now than ever before. We are more and more, waking up to our connections to all Life, including nonphysical beings in other realms, and we have free will. Always remember you can invite those you choose to spend time with.
You are invited to join in the gathering this coming Saturday to put our minds and hearts together to offer an uplifting exchange of wisdom with each other. This kind of support can be invaluable, I know it is for me.