I came across something someone shared online that I also thought to share with you. It was attributed to Anthony Hopkins although it was not verified. Regardless of who said it, there may be folks out there who may really benefit from this message. Perhaps it will speak to you in much the same way it did to me.
~~~ This may be the hardest thing you will have to do in your life. But, it may also be the most important thing. Stop giving your energy to those who don’t value it. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want to change. Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence. I know your impulse is to do everything to win the good mercy of everyone around you, but it’s also the impulse that will steal your time, your energy, your mental, physical, and spiritual health.
When you start expressing yourself in life more completely, with joy, interest, and commitment; not everyone will be ready to meet you in this place of sincerity. That doesn’t mean you have to change who you are. That means you have to stop giving your energy to people who don’t value it. When you are excluded, forgotten, or easily ignored by people who you give your time to,you don’t do yourself any favor by allowing them your energy and your time.
The truth is, you’re not for everyone and everyone is not for you. That makes this world more special when you do find the people who you share true friendship and love with. You will know how valuable it is because you will have experienced what it isn’t. But the more time that you spend trying to be loved by someone who is incapable or unwilling, the more time you waste depriving the same connection you could have with someone who is. And the smaller you remain involved in the company of people who use you as a pillow, as a background option, who take but never give, the longer you withhold yourself from the company of those you desire.
If you stop showing up, you might be less wanted. If you stop trying, the relationship might stop. If you stop texting your phone may stay dark for days or weeks. Maybe if you stop giving so much energy to someone the relationship between you will dissolve. That doesn’t mean that you ruined the relationship. What that means is that all the relationship had going was the energy that you alone contributed to keep it afloat. That’s not love; that’s attachment. That’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t want it.
The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life, is your energy. It’s not just your time that is limited, but your energy. What you give your energy to everyday, is what will define your existence. When you realize this, you start to understand why you’re so impatient when you spend your time with people who don’t suit you, in activities, places, and situations that don’t suit you. You are starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, is to conserve your energy for those who would appreciate it.
Turn your life into a sanctuary where only those who are appreciative can gain entrance into that sacred space. You are not responsible for saving anyone. And it is not your responsibility to convince them to be saved. It’s not your job to exist for people, and to give them your life – little by little, moment after moment, because you feel pity, or obligation, or because you feel guilty.
Your only obligation is to realize that YOU are the one you have been seeking. And to BE the love you never received. Begin with this and watch as everything begins to change. ~~~ As we move into December’s bright, sharp and clear energy; things will move quickly. I know they have for me. There is a surge of creativity and activations for a cleanse of identity and building bridges from the old way to the new way. It may feel “topsy-turvy” and might require regular doses of forgiveness for ourselves and others. There is also an incoming of love and calm in the mix.